I wish that I knew what I know now, when I was younger! I have found that many people have difficulty communicating with the one they love. They send mixed messages, don’t say what they mean as their thoughts are kind of messed up by the oxytocin or pheromones of love, to say what they want correctly. Often they are torn between attraction and running away!

People are single for many reasons. One could say that single people have never had a relationship that has ever worked out. There are some that had their love pass away and others who for no choice of their own are left alone. When a single person finds a love that is bigger than any feeling they have ever had before. It can bring about the approach avoidance syndrome. They are attracted to you, there is just something they see in you that they can’t find anywhere else. However because you are the biggest feeling they have ever had, Attraction! You also represent the biggest relationship failure they could ever have, hence Avoidance.

Communication is the only way to fix that situation. I see people making this work every day. Teach your special someone to communicate with you. This is not the time to use female speak, yes means no, Go ahead and do that when what you really mean is do that and see the consequences of your actions cause I know I won’t like that. Be clear about what you’re saying and doing. Words follow actions, your consistent in who you are, build trust that way.

When your heart invested in a relationship sometimes we get tunnel vision and can’t see our path clearly. You need a person that isn’t involved to see what you’re missing. Most times that is your BFF or a family member, someone you trust. Hopefully they are a person who has a successful relationship. Of course you could always call me, your friendly neighborhood Shaman! I do specialize in love and relationships. When you get that advice, see if it resonates with you, if it does then pay attention. If not then don’t do that!

Set yourself up for successful relationships. Work on your communication skills. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Don’t create problems that don’t exist with your fear. Walk with your head held high and a smile. We all look great with a smile. Be creative about your dates, picnic in at the lake, walk in the mall with a plan. Know your love’s likes and dislikes and remember to listen! Listening is such an underrated skill. I had three sisters and they taught me to listen. Best thing they ever did for me. Not that it was easy to get that lesson, took me years.

I am here for you. May you be blessed with all that you need. May your love be faithful and true.

Walks With Thunder