I hate evil. It is just a thing with me. When I find it hiding in plain sight I target it and remove it best I can. For some it is an evil entity that has attached itself to their lives. Yes you could call that a curse. Others do evil because they like it. Revel in it and walk around smiling, ribbons, bows, glitter and rainbows, all the while doing evil behind someone who is good. They use that person as a shield and create evil. My friend Audrey was going through a tough recovery from back surgery. An evil person kept her from her friend who could have helped her with a blessing or just being there for her. When I called that evil person out on it, she denied it. Then Audrey backed me up on what that evil person did.

Just because you pointed evil out doesn’t mean it is handled. You have to make sure others are not fooled by it. Evil has a way of pretending to be the victim that the weak and even the good buy into because it is the nice thing to do. As a spiritual warrior I hate that, my god have some back bone and kick evils ass! Evil hurts people, excludes them from associating with good people. They abuse their power by deleting a good person’s voice, painting that good person in a bad light so others doubt the truth. Pushing them out of groups of friends so that they are isolated and shunned. When we allow that we give power to evil. Even the best of us do that because we want to think the best of everyone. Even though we have evidence of what really happened and those we trust have warned us that this person who has such control of a good person’s life is abusing that power.

As a spiritual warrior I deal with the seamy side of spirituality. I am not out there telling you that Angels are light beings, there to protect you. Cause you know what they aren’t there for that. They are there to serve god. When God wants to kill someone he sends an angel, when he wants a city or army destroyed he sends an angle. When you buy a bill of goods that says angels are something else you’re being gullible. When you allow evil to have power in your world and allow it to associate with good people you are allowing evil into your heart, and we can’t do that. Evil has a way of using you, if you let it. The face of evil is a pleasant one. Did you know that the Angel of light is beautiful to look upon, even so Lucifer is evil incarnate, A fallen angel. The best lie evil tells you is I am of the light, not a lie when you think about it, Lucifer means light. It is not a light that I would want to bask in.

Evil curses our lives by making us feel unworthy, low self-esteem, pushed out of a group, alone, worthless, hurts our hearts and so much more. Evil wants and needs to feel powerful, and will lie, cheat, manipulate, steal and sometimes kill to get it. There is nothing evil won’t do to have its day. By allowing evil in our midst we say it is ok for that person to be evil. I ask you do you want to be used by evil or do you want to do something about it? Point out evil where you see it. Talk about what evil did and does to you. Find a way to push that evil out of your life out of your circle. Talk about truth. Shine your light into those dark places where you have allowed evil to have its way.

Put your spiritual hand In mine and say, form this day forward let evil be sent out of my presence. I call on the spirit of God and ask that it clear my path, my home my life of all that do evil or would do evil in my life. Bless me with friends that have backbone and are willing to stand up to evil as I have just done. Bless all the days of my life with people that are truly good, truly my friends, truly worthy of my trust and friendship. Bless me to be such a person as well. May it be so.

Walks With Thunder



Its been a strange week here, 3 of my “friends” have labeled me racist. My pal Angie says that I am not a racist as I am not a white person. I looked it up on Wikipedia. I don’t fit the definition, so there ya go Angie is right. I see humor where it is meant to be. The most recent posting I was called a racist was a picture of two men, labeled rednecks, using a new word, Obama. Used in a sentence ‘ I drank a six pack of beer Obama self. Now that is funny. My comment was “I think this is like Ebonics, maybe it will just fade away…” Ebonics is a real word and you could get a degree in it from Stanford University. Nothing racist about that, funny but real.

Had I used derogatory words like the dreaded W word or some other colorful metaphor to describe rednecks then I guess I could have been racist. Seems to me that people see in others what they are themselves.

I think I am very funny. Sometimes a new apprentice will not be as respectful as I think they should be so I give them the impression that they are going to be ‘cursed with loose bowel movements’. My apprentices see me change the weather in 5 minutes or less, remove pain in the body in seconds, colored quartz changes colors when I touch it as it becomes blessed to store spiritual energy just from my touch or the words of my blessing. When they think I am displeased they have to wonder did he really do it just to show me he could. I had an apprentice who was getting a divorce she is 5‘2 ¾” tall and her husband was 6’4” tall. When they would argue he would menace her by standing very close and looking down on her. It frightened her, so I told her that I would give him the runs every time he did it. She said you can’t do that, can you? I replied, of course I can, just watch what happens next time. Within 24 hours she had called me to say, ‘OMG he was menacing me again and all of a sudden he grabbed his stomach and ran to the bathroom. He has been in there 30 minutes already.” I said don’t worry he should be out in another 30 to 45 minutes. Even though I am good to my apprentices they know I have a sense of humor.

Sometimes they take action even when they don’t need to. One such apprentice thought she was in trouble, and took some laxatives so she wouldn’t be effected by the ‘curse’. Spent the whole weekend giving offerings to the porcelain god. On Monday she called and said you didn’t do anything did you? I said, No not at all. How did you know? Yes I am very funny. Perhaps I haven’t grown up all the way as I still think bathroom humor is funny.

There are people of all races that I don’t like, but I don’t like them on a personal basis not a whole race sort of thing. Yes I think that big black piece of coal shipped to Mt Rushmore is funny as they are supposed to use it to add Obuma to that monument. Hilarious, cause it is funny, not cause he is that n word thing. Yes I know I called the president Obuma not Obama (self) hehehehehe still funny! It is just a thing I do. Am sure he can think of many things to call me if he wants to.

Now the next person that calls me a racist is gonna get it. I am going to send them such a whammy they won’t know what hit them. You been told. I know what you’re thinking, does he mean that or not… Just try me ;o)

Walks With Thunder



I love to watch movies as the American story teller is found there. Way back before TV and Radio folks sat around the camp fire and people would tell stories. The person with the most stories became the “Story Teller”. Usually that person remembered the cultural history of that family or group. Retold stories they had heard as a child and could make up what I would call some great whoppers! I saw a movie 20 years or so ago that has stayed with me all these years. Not because it was a great movie as there are many that are better, because of the wisdom I found there.

Remo Williams returns, the Character Joel Grey portrays is great fun and his lines are memorable. The best one goes kinda like this. ‘You have fear. Fear is just a feeling, you feel hot, you feel cold, you feel fear. Now that I have explained this lets continue with the exercise.’ Granted most of us after hearing that would still feel fear at running along a tall buildings edge. Just looking down gives me the feeling of, not wanting to fall and hit the ground, is that fear or good sense.

That bit of wisdom is real, the movie not so much. This fear feeling keeps us from being who we really are. Imagine if you had a respectable fear, that kept you from doing crazy life threating things but allowed you to move forward in your relationships. Not afraid to share your feelings or talk to a person you’re attracted to. Not afraid to move forward in your goals and dreams, just going for it. Making each decision count towards a dream. Leaving fear behind to embrace who you have always wanted to be.  After all fear is just a feeling. You feel hot, you feel cold, you feel afraid. Exactly so what, take off your coat, put on a sweater, look that fear in the eye and say give me your best shot cause I am coming for you.

There are things we should be afraid of, Genetically Modified Foods, Serial Killers, Terrorists, the Tax man, Martha Stewart hahahahah, ok not Martha so much but you get the idea. Don’t be too fearless you get yourself killed. A healthy respect for what is dangerous and a brave warrior spirit for most everything else.  Follow your spirit to your dreams. What is holding you back? What would be so awful that the fear of failing keeps you from trying? The great thing about trying is you did something. If you never try your never going to succeed. What do you really have to lose? Just saying think about it.

May you find yourself where you always wanted to be with the person of your dreams.

Walks With Thunder



Intuition is a wonderful thing. We all have it, though most of us ignore it. It’s that little voice in our head that says keep going, turn right, this doesn’t feel right. I wonder how many people paid attention to that little intuition voice yesterday and didn’t go to Boston, didn’t run that race because there was something just not right about it.  When we meet someone new there is a 10 second evaluation period, in that 10 seconds my spirit knows if I like that person or not. Sometimes I just smile and walk away after meeting folks that my intuition says are not good for me. Yes it is rude but so is wasting my time on someone that is just using me.

My intuition has served me well over the past 55 years. It has chosen some of the best people to be my friends, and loves.  The times I regret the most are the times I didn’t listen to my inner voice. I knew it was going to turn out badly but I wanted the ride anyway. Is that wisdom, probably not, was it fun, yes, until it wasn’t.

My apprentices go through a training period to learn how to listen to that inner voice. We play a driving game, for 15 minutes you go in whatever direction you like the best in that moment. If you feel you need to turn you turn, if you need to go straight you go straight. At the end of 15 minutes you stop and see where your inner voice has led you. Get out of your vehicle if it is safe to do so. Walk around for 15 minutes and see what is near you. If there are people check them out if it feels safe talk to them. Most times at the end of your 30 minute game you have discovered a new place that makes you feel good or has spiritual power for you. Every now and then you meet a new friend that you would have overlooked had you not followed your inner voice.  You can do this in a Mall too! Same rules, except you walk.

Have you ever heard your name called and stopped to see who is calling you, only to find no one is there? That is your inner voice, guardian angel, accessorial spirit, or spirit guide delaying you so you don’t get into trouble.  Those few seconds change the course of your life by being too late for an accident or something worse.  Intuition is a wonderful thing if we can make it a part of our lives, being able to hear it or identify the feelings it gives us.

Pay attention to that inner voice, it could mean the difference of running that Boston Marathon or taking it easy and working in your garden instead. Yesterday is just as important as today, those responsible for that act of terrorism are still out there.  We can’t let fear hold us back we have to be strong, confident and listen to that inner voice that wants to guide us safely through our life time.

May those hurt by the terrorist act yesterday be blessed. May they heal and become whole once more. May those who passed away go to a better place.

Easy Days


I love those easy days, when you can get up late and there are no consequences. There are many of my friends and clients that don’t have easy days. They stress over money, jobs, relationships the list goes on and on. I always say Worry is a wasted emotion, it doesn’t make you jump higher, or run faster, or store more food for the winter. Yet we all do it at one time or another, seems like worry is hardwired into our brain. Spirit has always taken care of me, always there to catch me when I fall, always there to lean on if I need it. As a result I don’t worry anymore.

What is this thing I call spirit? When I look at the world around me my 184 IQ says this is by design. The orbits of the planets, the atom that so looks like a small solar system, the rings that a rain drop makes in a puddle of water. The cycle of life and seasons, the way the body repairs itself, has such diversity and yet still the same. That can’t be an accident, the double helix of DNA, the code of life all of that in something so small you need an electron microscope to see it. There is a divine energy to everything, as everything has a spirit, rocks, trees, cars, animals even you have a spirit. Some of us call it a soul. That spark of life within us, it lives on past the body. I call upon that spirit of everything to cooperate with me, though as a shaman I do command spirits when it is the right time to do so.

I was walking with an Apprentice graduate of mine yesterday. I had asked her to make sure we had some sun for our walk, of course we did. Now around Puget Sound the weather is usually cold, wet and windy. We had some of that too, but mostly sunny. She had focused her will and intent to move some storm clouds east, we stopped and rested on a bench. I looked at her storm cloud and it was going east though it seemed it wanted to go north east a bit. This huge dark grey storm cloud was moving east just because she wanted it to. I love that.

Life is like that storm cloud, we can just ask it (spirit) to cooperate with us. Drop our worries, and fears, pick up our smile and confidence, just cause we want to!

May our lives be all we want and need. May worry and fear be memories we leave behind us as we make our dreams real.

Febuary 14th 2012


February 14th,

I love this time of year, the flowers, hearts, candy! Oh yes Love too, knowing it’s a manufactured holiday for retail sales.  We still buy into it, movies, songs, gifts, candy, and doing things that say I love you to that special some one.

Being Shaman I see things others don’t.  Perhaps its because I am open to that part of life.  Most folks just go about their day missing the magic that just is.  Fairies, little people, lights, glows and flashes all around us.  Of course there is the dark side to that but it doesn’t come round me anymore.  Its good to be Shaman! I see the magic of love, not going to settle for less than a twin flame.  Having had three in my life time I am optimistic about there being a fourth.

How did I get three your wondering.  I said a blessing after my divorce papers were signed.  To have the woman of my dreams come and love me.  There is so much wrong with that blessing.  I wasn’t specific enough.  Didn’t say to come and love me the rest of my life, or say the best woman of my dreams as dreams is plural…. So three came to me in the space of about 4 months.  Talk about trouble and bliss..

The really hard part of that was having to chose one of them.  Imagine having three people that meet your needs, inspire you to be more than you are with out them.  Each one a goddess.  Choosing a twin flame from three is very difficult as your going to hurt two some ones.  My heart was confused and I chose poorly.  Perhaps I should have gone with the one that had the most passion, or the one with the most sexual energy, or the sweetest disposition, or the smartest.

Twin Flames are magical, they can join you in your dreams and remember. They know what your thinking and doing.  Even in Las Vegas so what you do there is known to them. The magic of merging your spirits from a distance, feeling a kiss or caress even though they aren’t around.  So much loving energy that the people around you are happy because your in love.  The food tastes better, the air is sweeter, colors are brighter and the sexual energy between you is off the charts powerful.

Having had that and more, I can’t settle for less than a twin flame. A regular romance just won’t do it for me.  For those of you in those regular every day romances, I say, Good for you.  Enjoy it, savor it, cherish it because for you that is the best you have ever done. Not reaching the heights of the twin flame relationship is a blessing.  You have no idea what your missing so the bar is set low and happiness is attained.  Talk about blissfully ignorant!

Those of you that know me on Facebook see my beautiful friends and wonder if I am seeing one of them.  Nope am single, just being beautiful isn’t enough to satisfy me anymore, there has to be that magic of who they are, and who we are together. The chemistry that doesn’t end, even now I love my twin flames though at a distance.  They have a piece of my heart and I theirs.  Some times they visit me in my dreams and that is enough for now.  One day though my fourth twin flame will walk into my life and that will be a day that inspires me the rest of my life.

My advice, having bungled my romantic life isn’t worth much.  Here it is anyway, love with your whole heart no holding back.  Say “I love you!” and mean it.  Kiss like it’s the very last time you will ever kiss her because it may very well be your last kiss so make it worth remembering. Don’t let the small stuff get in the way of the biggest feeling you will ever have.

A Touch of Love


Just a few minutes ago while i was watching a DVD, I felt a hand on the top of my head. Remarkable only because I am at home alone with my dogs.  It was familiar, like someone I loved playing with my hair, making it twirl and gently scratching the top of my head.  I didn’t ask who it was, didn’t turn around to see them, and just enjoyed it for about four minutes.  Feeling like I was in love again, important to some one that cared about me.

There is so much spirit energy this month and it’s still building.  My phantom lover is gone now, I guess not she’s back.  Feeling her fingers in my hair again.  I just asked who are you, come to me show yourself.  Still feeling her fingers in my hair but no sign or sight of her other than that.  I guess it could be a twin flame reaching through time to give me love again.  I do know some very magical women.

I miss two of them very much.  Over the years they and I have grown apart.  It’s a thing that happens when someone is as busy as I was. Getting my TV pilots going, teaching classes, and traveling so much.  There is a strange thing that happens to the friends I knew.  Some of them get envious of what I have done. Being on TV, having a number 1 radio show with 45K listeners. That makes negative energy and they start to say things about me that make them feel better about who they are and what they haven’t done yet. Writing a book about Magical love doesn’t make your reputation higher. It’s taking longer than I thought as I keep getting distracted with the research.

That sort of reputation doesn’t attract your old friends to come on by and say hi.  Some feel guilty about what back stabbing they did, or unworthy about how they treated me.  When the universe sends me a touch of love it just makes me sad to remember those that I loved the most were turned away by those small petty people that used to call themselves my friends. For some odd reason my success made my so called friends feel small, it hurt them to see the power I walk with.  Rumors, negative energy, envy, all conspire to change what could have been an epic romance into just a magical memory.

I call the grandfather and grandmother spirits, and all the nations that love me.  I ask them to give this blessing to me and others like me that are missing our twin flame.  To have that flame know we love them and would welcome them back into our lives. To clear away all that negative energy made by others and ourselves, and leave only a clear path for us to follow to an epic romance.  I ask that those that have loved deeply have their hearts mended so they can love even more deeply than ever before. I ask that those that feel hurt, that spread rumors, that can’t take the high road be forgiven so they can move on.  In a great and powerful way I ask that the blessing I should have given be given. I thank the nations and spirits gathered.

It’s the Holiday Season


The holidays are almost here. I can feel magic gathering in the air, its like an expectant electricity waiting for someone to focus it.  The weather seems to be showing off, sunshine, snow, wind, rain, and my favorite Thunder and lightning.  Today I am listening to the sound of rain on the roof as I gather my thoughts for you.  Sharing this time together, passing on life lessons and metaphysical happenings.

I have noticed many movements in the house these past few weeks.  Movement, colors, shapes crossing my field of vision.  The fairies and Angels that gather at my house just to keep me company, letting me know they are just within reach.  Sometimes tickling my fingers as type or glowing from my shirt pocket in the closet. I love this season of magic.

Do you believe in the spirit of Christmas? How about the magic of the holiday spirit? I remember being a boy of or so waiting for Santa Clause.  My family was poor, our presents few, but the joy of those Christmas mornings was and still is a bright light in my memories.  You see I didn’t know we were poor.  My three sisters and I gathered round the lit tree.  Those big lights, with tinsel sparkling, the smell of a real tree my dad had cut from the forest.  A magical time.  Christmas dreams of toys and candy.  Much has changed these days. LED lights and artificial trees. Electronic gifts and games, fancy candies.  It’s a long way from that little boy I once was.  I am sure your memories of Christmas past are just as bright to you.  Though there are some who don’t have bright memories.

The holiday season, I was once told, has the highest rate of suicide than any other time of the year.  Yes crime and abuse still go on.  Yet there is still that element of magic in the air.  Having the vision to see Angels, Fairies and spirits, also allows me to see the magical sparkle that surrounds us all.  Have you noticed how many Holiday Ghost stories there are?  I once had an old book that had so many holiday ghost stories in it.  I got it for Christmas from one of my sisters.

Have been planning a trip to Disney World to see the holiday decorations there.  It’s a magical place any time of the year but this will be my 1st time there during the holidays.  It has something to do with children’s dreams and the fantasy that the inner child of the adults that go there bring to it.  Yes I know its commercialization at its best, yet it still brings with it a pure magic one can’t explain.  However it’s created or attracted it’s there waiting for us if we allow it into our lives. Magic.

We just had a fun event 11-11-11 though its really 11-11-2011 not quite as powerful as 1st presented.  I think that the power of 11 is really the power of 2.  It’s such a romantic number, a couple, a pair a duo, a twosome.  Then what would three twosomes mean? Actually three twosomes and a pair as that 2 in the 20 still counts for 2. Four pair, in the Native American way four is a sacred number representing the 4 directions and pair for each direction.  I love that.  Romance no matter which way you turn.

Here in the North West where I have lived since 1980 we have our own Christmas songs. Brenda Whites, Christmas in the Northwest, is my all-time favorite.  When I am away from the Northwest I miss those songs we have here.  When I was in LA they has some great old songs. All I want for Christmas is a hippopotamus. The movie tunes from White Christmas, My friend Debbie Vicarie’s version of Santa Baby, you can find her on YouTube.

I love the parties at this time of year.  I used to have a Ginger Bread house party every year I was married.  The food the creation of fun.  Making cookies, and cooking things I saw on Food TV.  Just something about fudge and cookies that makes me feel it’s the holidays!  Alton Brown has a brined Turkey recipe that is just awesome! His prime Rib is also a favorite of mine for New years!

My point, embrace the magic of the season. Understand the commercialization of the holidays and love it anyway. Create a bright memories with your friends and family. See the magic that children bring to the season. Take in the music, the sounds, and the sights and let that magic grow with in your spirit.  Don’t just have a merry Christmas, hold the spirit of the season in your heart.   Be generous if you can and give a poor child a gift, it may be the only one they get.  Remember friends absent and present.  Add that special magic of your own to a season of magic.

May your holidays be all that you could wish for and more.

Walks With Thunder

A Paranormal Season is upon us! Enjoy it!!


Lions and Tigers and Bears oh my!

This time of year the spirits that be make themselves known.  For those of us that see spirits and even those that are only aware of them, it’s a fun time.  These first few weeks of October have had me seeing fairies and such around the house.  Red fairies, White Angels, ultra bright Thunder spirits hanging around.  Haven’t seen a dark spirit in years, knock wood (taps forehead).

Had a visit from the Sand Man 1st week of October.  I was waking up and then my conscious self left my body for a view of the ceiling looking down on my body as I was getting up.  Then a large Sea Shell of dark brown with light brown spots materialized over my body it was about  ft long 3 ft around. It gently bounced on my body and I was asleep again. I woke up when the phone rang, answered my call hung up and that shell came back bounced on me again. Back to sleep for a while.  This happened a few times that morning, answering the phone and going back to sleep.  Finally got out of bed about 11:45 AM.  Wiped the sand from my eyes and got my day going!

Life is good to me.  I have an income that doesn’t care about 9 to 5 hours.  So I can have a visit from the sand man and still make a living.  Not everyone is fortunate to live like I do, I am blessed.  I have time for those magical questions.  Like is the Sand Man real, Do Fairies exist, if those exist do Dragons exist?  Yes I know for a fact Fairies exist.  Fact Angels exist, as do Fallen Angels.  Dark Spirits exist, so do light ones. I haven’t seen a dragon yet but I am open to it.  Haven’t seen an ET but I don’t really want to either.  If I did though it would probably be in this energized time between October 1st and January 3rd.

Maybe it’s the energy the holiday season brings.  Folks anticipating, dreaming of the holidays puts extra energy in the air.  It’s like the feeling I have when I go to Disneyland or Disney World, its magic about to happen.  This spiritual time is ripe for paranormal experiences.  Some folks go out and visit graveyards or tell scary stories. Playful spirit and some that are not hangout in graveyards, and may come home with you if you’re not careful.  My ex-wife Laura said I wasn’t allowed to go to graveyards ever as things love to follow me home.  Did you know that on a daily basis we all pass by areas when people have died recently?  Look along the streets and highways and you will find little memorial sites to those that died there.  Traffic accidents create those little reminders someone died there.  That someone may yet linger there.  I can see them when they do, others feel the presence of those passed on. This time of year that energy gets stronger.

I dislike that feeling of being watched.  Used to get it when I was in the forest, gazing out at a clearing or creek. Knowing something was watching me, something with intelligence.  Back then I hadn’t embraced my Shamanic gifts, so I couldn’t see them.  Quite often those intelligent beings are surprised to find me looking back at them.  When caught they slink off out of sight.  That’s OK with me, lets me know they are cowards, choosing only those that can’t look back to bother.

If you’re bothered by spirits or some paranormal being, the best thing to say is…. I do not worship you, let me pass.  It’s got respect and it’s kind of spunky too as it lets them know you’re not buying whatever they are selling.  My little Apprentices from 7 to 12 like to say, Walks With Thunder is gonna kick your butt if you bother me.  Oddly that works too.  For some not all, saying the Sheppard’s prayer works.  I like the part Yea though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death I fear not for I am the badest thing out here. Evil had better run or I am gonna kick it’s a$$.  OK that’s the way I say it. I still like that prayer.

It’s a funny thing that we are not told or taught in bible study that because we have a divine spark of life within us we ourselves are powerful and can defeat evil spirits with that divine spark of light within us.  We just have to have faith that our creators protection is there and it will be.

Enjoy this season of holidays,  Look for the magic and the spirits that surround this time of year.  Embrace the magic of you and the power of love.  May you be blessed to have more than you need and not want for anything.

Walks With Thunder

Epidemic of Approach Avoidance syndrome


I hear this sad story all day long. “My love and I are constantly getting close and then we talk about commitment and a few days later they are gone for days or weeks. Then they come back and everything is fine for a while. Then we talk about commitment and that puts us back into this cycle again.”  Men and Women are both doing this behavior.  On the one had they want intimacy and on the other they avoid commitment.

Not communicating for days weeks and in some cases months. Then coming back into your life like nothing happened.  You bring it up and they agree to change and then can’t seem to change this odd behavior. They are attracted to you, say the right things, it’s wonderful when you’re together. However they leave after commitment is talked about.  I like to think it’s a learned behavior, which their parents had this behavior and now they are modeling it with you because it’s what they know.  They have no idea that this hurts you and lowers your confidence and self-esteem.  That your heart breaks a little more as they create this distance between you.

Something in their eyes, smile, attracts us like no other or we would tell these damaged dysfunctional butt heads to pack it up and move on.  Yet we hope that they will grow out of it, break the cycle and realize what a blessing it is to be together. That this sort of love is rare, worthwhile and enjoyable.  It’s almost like they are addicted and can’t stay away for too long before they come back.  We enjoy those little honey moons only to be left along again as the cycle of Approach Avoidance begins again.

In some cases the best idea is to walk away as it’s too painful and has gone on too long to stay in such a relationship.  In other cases it’s just beginning and is changeable as it’s not a set pattern.  They have to realize how important you are to them.  That try as they may they can’t walk away. Knowing that they must also realize that this sort of behavior can’t continue. It won’t be long till you lose interest, grow self-esteem or someone new enters your life and takes your breath away as well as your heart.  Usually during those times when they are avoiding you and your vulnerable to someone who has something nice to say to you.  Has no problem calling you or making you a priority in their day.  Its powerful stuff this thing called a “normal relationship”.

75% of my daily calls are about this problem. I usually recommend a blessing for them to come out of this cycle and realized the vulnerable position they are in.  No one wants to be in that cycle of approach avoidance.  Usually that person is a past life lover that your spirit recognized and crated an instant connection with you.  Then over time you create a soul mate relationship that bonds you together so you can’t leave the cycle as the feelings and spiritual connection are too strong to let go.  Talk about putting the D in dysfunctional!

I would never tell anyone to walk away from such a relationship.  Soul mates and twin flames are awesome and worth the trouble if you can save it.  To be with that one person that inspires you to love more deeply than ever before! Oh if only we could all have that in our lives.  Even the dysnfuctionality of the approach avoidance relationship, if it has the soul mate connection is worth the trouble of saving.  Even if you could walk away from it, which most can’t, you would regret it the rest of your life.

What to do about it.  Endure, release your negative energy around it, do things that nurture you.   In some cases you will need to disconnect your spirit, and heart so you can walk away. Last resort though.  My heart tells me not to give up and I always try to follow my heart.  Choose love in what you do.  Forgive that person as they are damaged goods, and can’t help this low self-esteem behavior they do.  Love is a gift, a past life, or soul mate relationship is a big gift from the universe.  Get counseling if you can, help them realize it’s a hurtful thing they do to you so they can stop abusing you in this way.

If you have tried everything and you still can’t get them to stop this behavior of approach avoidance then for your own self-esteem, self-love, and self-confidence. Then you’re going to have to consider letting them go.  A huge task, you have to be ready for it and given up all hope of them changing.  Its possible I can show you how to disconnect, and let go.  It’s a long process taking months and sometimes years. Knowing in your heart your worthwhile and you did everything you could helps.  May you be blessed with some one that loves you for who you are and who grows with you.  May the magic of love be yours.

Walks With Thunder.

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